Life is a journey, not a race

Did you know that in Japanese, there is a term known as “karoshi,” which actually means death by overwork? 

Today, I saw a video that spurred this thought about work-life balance. Some glaring figures of how many kids never really get to see their parents before they sleep. That the Japanese sleep 2 hours less than the rest of the world since they work 12+ hours per day. An X percent of young professionals would rather have more holidays than higher pay. And hold on tight, a person would normally spend 26 years with a workmate but an average of only 2 solid years with a loved one?  

Oh yeah, time has become a commodity. We are all spinning around in our own fast paced bubbles. I am a little guilty of this. Sometimes, I walk around like a zombie, doing a project list in my head, thinking of who I need to call the moment I settle or the first thing I’d e-mail once I open my laptop. I look at competitive activities, even while on a trip. I open my office e-mail even on Sunday nights. Yeah, I’m a little crazy like that.

Again we have to remind ourselves, we work to live and not live to work. A friend of mine once told me this advice which comes in pretty handy:

(1) Get it done.

(2) Get the money.

(3) Go home (or Go Party).

And like what I’ve been telling everyone, let’s enjoy the ride 🙂

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The boys, as we move along

When I was in college, I stumbled on this line from Oprah, “the smarter the woman gets, the more difficult it is for her to find the right man.” I remember it so perfectly.

I’d like to believe that as I grow older, I become wiser. I think that’s the only way to go and never the opposite, right?

Looking back at all the guys I ever liked, I guess some would make my jaw drop and throw the classic line, “what the hell was I thinking?” When I was in high school, I had this big crush on a campus heartthrob. At that time, I thought it was love. He had the cutest chinky eyes, the hell if he can’t even spell or multiply. I was 12 and obviously didn’t know any better. 

I’ve moved on from petty crushes to a “relationship,” the first I ever had. The concerns were so shallow — “How come you didn’t call?” “Why didn’t we eat lunch together?” and the list of trivial things go on. I was still in high school so as I shifted from the comforts of my nearby school to the university, the desires and things I aspire for a relationship also changed.

So there goes a start of my first serious relationship. It was where I learned how important friendship was to build a relationship. I began to realize that it’s beyond the chinky eyes but knowing that there will always be someone to have your back when times get tough. It came at a time when I was starting to dream. College gives you this. Being so close to the “real world outside,”  I felt my future within reach and the guy I held hands with automatically was the same guy I built my dreams with.

College sweethearts, it’s either you get married or break up. With us, it had to be the latter. I was living my dream job. My own career, own paycheck, the new people I’m meeting, the independence was just overwhelming and I had to take it up a notch.

In between were the guys who would try to woo me thinking I’d take the bait, the guys who would try to make friends. There was the one who got away because the universe conspired it was not meant to be.

From there I felt I knew better, way better. So I ought to myself that the next guy will be perfect. He will be really smart. Will know better literature, vocabulary and grammar than me. Will leave me in awe on things he knows about culture, history and the arts. His manners are well intact and his gestures so fine. He’s the sweetest but remains to be my sturdy wall. He doesn’t smoke, does not drink (well not too much). Gambling is a no-no. He knows the balance of family and friends.

But love found me through the most unexpected person, a friend. On this long list of things I want, Gel (my boyfriend) is like a 40% miss. Hahaha! The one you love is always an exception, right? 🙂

Seriously, I think as you get wiser, your ideals become more defined. What you want in life is clearer versus your shady standards when you were 12. Hence, making you more picky, more equipped to make intelligent choices and not be swooned by just a pretty face.  

So yes, it is true. It gets a little harder smart girls. If at all, DO NOT SETTLE.

But please, be smart enough as well to differentiate the more important traits from the highly utopian ones. Remember, you need a man who isn’t perfect but real.

My path to purchase

I always tell myself to “invest on experiences and not on things.”

That’s why my trusty iPod which I’ve had since the iPod was the “it” item is still with me. That’s why I do not own an Hermes or LV bag that will be scrutinized if real or not when I parade with it. That’s why I don’t really care about labels on my clothes or designer brands on my soles.

Because these things come and go, yet there’s no joy like seeing places for the first time. No fun like not being able to read street signs and babble like a kid in a foreign language. No memories painted so vivid, photos and laughters more amazing than the bliss of a much-deserved vacation.

True enough, I found this article from Time: Want Happiness? Don’t Buy More Stuff — Go on Vacation

Cheers to more experiences whose talk value won’t diminish when the BB’s will look like mere 5110s  🙂

Sail away!

Great job, Steve Jobs!

Quite recently, I’ve become a Mac convert and proved that what they say is true: “once you go Mac, you’ll never go back.”

Today, the world was shaken as Steve Jobs – the man who brought the things we’ve only imagined of to life, resigned as CEO for Apple. I, for one, will miss his entertaining presentations, his constant wit and his legendary vision.

Out of all the articles that came out today about his leaving, one struck me as really worth sharing, this: Steve Jobs: The end of an era.

He’s been an inspiration.

This is probably what he can say to me, and to YOU! 

“To the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” – Steve Jobs

Really is, “Crazy Stupid Love”

Gel and I went out for a movie date last night. He actually surprised me with tickets to, lo and behold, Crazy Stupid Love. Akalain mo?! 🙂

I had a really good laugh since the comedy wasn’t pilit at all. Nothing to be surprised since you have Steve Carell and Emma Stone who I deeply love. 🙂 Plus, Julianne Moore’s there who seems to be really prolific nowadays. Gel was waiting for her to undress, since that’s what we’ve been seeing on her films lately. Haha but no! This is kind of wholesome. 🙂

But dang, Ryan Gosling, you are really a charmer! He’s got the best fashion taste (well, thanks to stylists). He also has this boyish yet manly look which I cannot explain.

 

 I’d probably pass out if he gives me this stare from across the room.

And this, well if I was Emma Stone, I’d be more than willing to do this over and over just for the heck of! Haha.

So go and see it for a good laugh and some little sobs. 

Perfect movie date, I tell you. 🙂